I do not think that the other is, I speak to him. He is my partner in the heart of the relation which to say, I have neglected the universal being that he incarnates in order to hold on to the particular being that he is.

who's he?

he describes insomnia in terms of experience of the horror of the Il y a, of the space not empty but filled with darkness, in which consciousness is given over to the night, submerged, depersonalised. In the night the things of the day are reduced to indeterminacy, they 'sweat being'

The sense of the human is not to be measured by presence, not even by self-presence. The meaning of proximity exceeds the limits of ontology, of the human essence, and of the world. It signifies by way of transcendence and the relationship-to-God-in-me (l'a-Dieu-en-moi) which is the putting of myself into question. The face signifies in the fact of summoning, of summoning me. in its nudity or its destitution, in everything that is precarious in questioning, in all the hazards of mortality - to the unresolved alternative between Being and Nothingness, a questioning which, ipso facto, summons me .The Infinite in its absolute difference witholds itself from presence in me; the Infinite does not come to meet me in a contemporaneousness like that in which noesis and noema meet simultaneously together, nor in the way in which the interlocutors responding to one another may meet. The Infinite is not indifferent to me. It is in calling me to other men that transcendence concerns me. In this unique intrigue of transcendence, the non-absence of the Infinite is neither presence, nor re-presentation. Instead, the idea of the Infinite is to be found in my responsibility for the Other.s

'Beyond Intentionality' Levinas

To love her is, in the Spirit of self-control, to allow her a free space of becoming. To love her is to remember that God gives her life and a task in the Spirit. To love her is to cultivate a free space of silence between us so that we might live and work together according to the Spirit's intention. To love her is to acknowledge the freedom of the one who lives and breathes in the Spirit.